Losing My Faculties

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Hi, this is Lasagna Moore from Ulysses, Texas.

Hi, Lasagna. Welcome to the show. How can we help?

Thank you.

So I have a friend, an older gentleman that I’m dating.

He’s about 15 years older than me.

And sometimes when he tries to, I’ll say, get fresh, quote-unquote fresh with me,

And I want to come to his advances, he will apologize to me,

And he will say, I’m sorry for losing my faculties with you.

His faculties?

Yes.

Yeah.

F-A-C-U-L-T-I-E-S.

And I’ve just never heard that word used to relate to, you know, trying to do that to someone.

And I’m just trying to get a better understanding of the history of that word and if he’s using it correctly.

So how long have you been dating this guy?

I’ve been dating him for six months now.

Okay.

And what would you expect him to say rather than that?

Yeah, that’s a good question.

Maybe I apologize for trying to get fresh with you.

Maybe that was inappropriate.

I apologize for being inappropriate.

You know, I would expect something like that.

-huh.

Did you ask him?

But not faculties.

I’ve never heard that.

Yeah, I’ve never heard that either in that context.

Did you ask him about it?

I did.

And then he says, well, that’s what he tells me.

Well, that’s what it means.

It means that I made an advancement towards you and you rejected the advancement.

So I lost my faculties with you.

I lost myself with you.

I could see how he could get there.

And here’s why, Lasagna.

Faculties can mean your senses.

So he lost his senses.

He lost control of his behavior, more or less.

And he, I guess he let his emotions, feelings get the better of him and stop being able to govern his actions.

I guess that’s what he’s saying, right?

Because if your faculties are your, it’s like your mental or your physical abilities.

And a lot of times it’s just kind of reduced down into your senses and your sense of awareness, your sense of place, your sense of propriety, those kinds of senses, as well as, you know, touch and taste and seeing and so forth.

Oh, okay.

Yeah.

Okay.

Your ability to control your impulses, I guess.

But, you know, I have to say that that sounds really charming and gallant to me.

Oh, does it?

Yeah.

Is he a gallant speaker?

He is.

Yes, he is.

-huh.

I mean, it just sounds so, I don’t know, gentlemanly and chivalrous.

Right.

Instead of saying, like, sorry, whatever, which you could have said, right?

Yeah.

What’s wrong with you?

Yeah.

I mean, is this the kind of guy who would…

I mean, I’m picturing the kind of guy who would, you know, lay down his coat across a puddle for you to step across.

Have I got that right?

Yes.

Open the door.

You know, make sure you’re comfortable.

Make sure the temperature is correct.

Make sure you have everything that you need.

Very formal.

So, yes, it kind of fits his personality.

I see.

Send us a postcard when the wedding happens.

Yeah.

I sure will.

I sure will.

Well, thank you for this.

This was great.

Oh, good.

My pleasure.

It doesn’t sound like you two need much help.

I would say good luck with that, all right?

All right.

Thank you.

Thanks.

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