genderqueer
adj.— «Even though Melissa always defined herself as a lesbian, she said her partner’s transition made sense to her. Part of the couple’s sangfroid is generational—she and Rey see themselves as genderqueer rather than gay. For them, sexual orientation is fluid. Like some of their peers, Melissa and Rey want to be—and sometimes imagine they already are—part of the first generation to transcend gender.» —“When Girls Will Be Boys” by Alissa Quart New York Times Magazine Mar. 16, 2008. (source: Double-Tongued Dictionary)