genderqueer
adj.β Β«Even though Melissa always defined herself as a lesbian, she said her partnerβs transition made sense to her. Part of the coupleβs sangfroid is generationalβshe and Rey see themselves as genderqueer rather than gay. For them, sexual orientation is fluid. Like some of their peers, Melissa and Rey want to beβand sometimes imagine they already areβpart of the first generation to transcend gender.Β» ββWhen Girls Will Be Boys” by Alissa Quart New York Times Magazine Mar. 16, 2008. (source: Double-Tongued Dictionary)