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2011/12/06 - 1:12pm

An interesting ambiguity came up for discussion today. The verbal phrase to fight with x usually means, in the vast number of examples, that x is an opponent in the fight. However, in some explicit contexts, such as when explicitly opposed with to fight against, to fight with can mean precisely the opposite, that x is your comrade in arms.

Examples (from Google books) of fight with or against:
Should they fight with or against their masters?
A People and a Nation, Volume I: A History of the United States: … – Page 148

Even if he knew whether to fight with or against Dr. Georges-Scales, he couldn't.
Seraph of Sorrow – Page 187

Now the naked question was, whether Virginia should fight with or against her sisters of the Gulf States.
A life of Gen. Robert E. Lee – Page 25

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2011/12/06 - 1:57pm

Yeah, an interesting ambiguity for sure. My take is that it's one of those phrases that depends more on whether it's written and formal, or conversational and informal. For example, I often hear or say:

I had   fight with my wife.

I had a fight with my best friend.

I had a fight with my son/daughter/mother/father.

The examples you quote about "fighting against" all have to do with institutional conflicts, as in a declared war or revolution, and so the more formal "fight against" just sounds more correct to my ears.

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2011/12/06 - 5:53pm

The ambiguity was noted by comedians at least as far back as vaudeville:

"My great-grandfather fought with General Sherman, my grandfather fought with Pershing, and my father fought with MacArthur."

"Gee, your family couldn't get along with anyone!"

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2011/12/07 - 3:46pm

I believe Abbott & Costello did that routine. Probably many others comedic pairs too. Had forgotten about that "2-liner" till Ron mentioned it. Funny!

Was thinking some more about the fight with vs. fight against usage patterns, and keep coming back to my hypothesis regarding informal vs. formal conflicts. The "opponent" doesn't even need to be a person or institution or nation. Here's some more expressions I've heard or used:

I'm fighting with the phone company over that last bill.

I've been fighting with the alarm system settings on my car for the last two weeks.

Been trying to program my DVR to record that series, but I'm still fighting with that damn menu system.

 

Curiously, when the "opponent" is a disease they (at least in advertising) seem to prefer the more formal:

Helps you in your fight against hair loss.

The fight against obesity can be won using our new diet program.

We'll help you every way we can in your fight against cancer/diabetes/MS, etc.

I suspect that choice is made by ad copy writers because it makes them sound more "serious." It also anthropomorphizes the disease, giving it a "face" and identity at which to target the treatment.

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2012/01/06 - 7:39pm

I gather (mostly from reading old books and authors) that children a hundred years ago used to be taught this difference carefully—which implies that even then they tended to use "with" carelessly when they really meant "against".   That struggle is almost lost nowadays, except that it's still necessary to the language and so crops up occasionally in people's awareness.

Then, too, some fights against are also fights with.   If you're a boxer, surely your fight against Mohammed Ali (dating myself, here) is also in a sense a fight with him?   And, too, some people like to fight, so many fights you and your best friend get into could be fights with him....depending on just how annoyed you are, and for how long afterward.

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2012/01/10 - 9:14am

Is it only fight with that is ambiguous? I wonder about compete with and compete against. They seem the same to me. And, I do not think I would ever use compete with when referring to my team mates.

Emmett

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2012/01/10 - 10:04am

Ok, I hear that.   And at first I think I understand it.   But then it occurs to me to ask:   Fine, in that case what preposition would you use, when referring to your teammates?   "With" is the only possibility that comes to me.

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2012/01/10 - 12:16pm

Bob Bridges said:

Ok, I hear that.   And at first I think I understand it.   But then it occurs to me to ask:   Fine, in that case what preposition would you use, when referring to your teammates?   "With" is the only possibility that comes to me.

In my language, the prepositon is not the problem. I don"t think I would use compete in referencing my team. I would say, "I played with the Cardinals (my high school mascot)" or "I played on the Cardinals (basketball team)."

When using compete, I would say, "I competed with the Tigers" or "I competed against the Pirates."

Emmett

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2012/01/10 - 2:13pm

I'm pondering.   This is not (exactly) a challenge, much less actual disagreement, for I find, now that you've got me thinking about it, that I don't say it that way either.   But do you ever use "compete" as a verb, then?   And if you do...   Well, it seems to me I've heard it said that so-and-so "competed in the Olympic games"....   And here I pause, uncertain.   "...on the US team"?   "...with the US team"?   I'm not sure.   I certainly would have said it's proper to write "competed with", but I now realize I never say it myself.

"Do you ever write it, then?"   I don't know that either.

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2012/01/11 - 3:22am

The preposition alongside will remove the ambiguity of using with whether we are coupling it with fight or compete. Google"s ngram viewer would be useful in answering some of your questions. I searched fought alongside and it showed a steady increase throughout the 20th century with easily explained peaks in the late teens and middle forties.

I"ll be out-of-pocket for a couple of days, but I would be interested in any results others might find from some ngram studies.

Emmett

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